Today when everyone is at home, there might be times when there are conflicts. One big reason is that we all are a social animal and we love to socialize but we are locked, not allowed to go out. So, at this time it is easy to have conflicts. Everyone is playing their part, rather I must say that everyone is doing extra. Females at home have to handle household chose and also are working from home, kids are not allowed to go out to play, and men hardly sit at home but now even they have to sit and manage their work from home. So, everyone is doing what they have not done.
Therefore, today I have come up to let you know how you can be emotionally intelligent during this period of lockdown and also for the rest of your life.
Anybody can become angry- this is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree, and at the right time and for the right purpose and in the right way- that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. – Aristotle
To be true, I wanted to write on this topic for a long time but always kept on ignoring.
Human beings are emotional creatures and therefore, we make decisions and respond to stimuli based on our emotions. But that does not mean that we cannot handle our emotions. Because I believe that emotional intelligence can be learned, improved and also very much needed if you want success in life.
My only purpose here is to help you to understand the ways you can influence your mind, and the minds of others, by growing emotionally intelligent every day in everything you do.
There are 3 basic characteristics of Emotionally Intelligent person and those are:
- The ability to understand your emotions.
- The ability to manage emotions.
- The ability to understand others emotions
There is nothing noble in being superior to others. True nobility lies in being superior to your former self.
Now the question is how you can develop these three characteristics. And the answer to it is “Pause for a while”.
I had read this somewhere, practised and found it amazing. When ever you feel stressed or overloaded with emotions, just give a pause- go out and take a deep breath. In other words- learn to respond, do not react. Take a break for a few seconds and this break will be enough for you to calm down and this will help you how you should respond?
But now you should also know that the greater your emotional instability, the more it will be difficult for you to take breaks. So, the catch here is that do not let your emotions overcome your willpower. I have personally experienced this many times it is difficult to take that pause. But if you have taken that pause it is easy for you to know what you want, and how you can get it?
These small pauses will help you in understanding your emotions better in a more intelligent way and you will able to manage them as well.
See how these pauses will help you to be an emotionally intelligent person:
1) You will be more focused: It will help you to do things which matter to you.
2) Reduce stress: this technique of pausing comes under stress management. So this means you can manage your stress.
3) You will be a stronger person: It will help you to be a strong willpower person.
4) Great bonding: Reduce stress means you will able to manage conflict in the family and at your workplace.
5) Will invoke a Leader in you: People will respect you and will try to involve you more in decision making.
To add on here, emotionally intelligent people should have an ability to understand the emotions of others and this is termed as empathy. Because if you do not have empathy for others you can never be an emotionally intelligent person because to act upon any situation, you should know what the other person is going through. This is a very powerful tool which an emotionally intelligent person should work upon. Without understanding other person’s situation and circumstances you cannot respond smartly.
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